This has been an extremely hard week for humanity. As a non-violent individual, and one who struggles with anxiety, I find myself frozen in fear wondering where we are headed during the next weeks and months. It is clear that things need to change. Things NEED to change! There is deep-seated pain in America. There is anger. There is fear. There are tears. America it is time to heal yourself. The voices of ugliness need to be drowned out. Acts of violence need to stop. The bullying culture needs to go; it NEVER served us. Time to let that go.
Voices of peace and love need to be louder. There are peaceful and kind people in America. There are true patriots who want all residents to prosper and live their best lives. Yet these people are not going to come out with guns blazing, with hate speech, with extremist actions. They are your considerate neighbors, your kind coworkers, your quiet and perhaps also shy friends. People in your communities who serve you with a smile and a kind word. Notice these people. Notice the kind love within these steadfast quiet souls.
Yesterday I felt useless as one of these individuals. I felt fear as violence erupted from demonstrations meant to be peaceful. My anxiety surged. When I closed my eyes to meditate all I could think when I tried to focus on my breath was “#icantbreathe”. The movement is that powerful! This nation witnessed trauma together. Those of us already healing from other traumas are struggling even more. We have definitely reached the breaking point America and it is time to stop.
Going with the flow during stressful times may help us more in the end than standing rigidly in resistance. Often the path of least resistance gets us where we want or often need to go.
In our Type A dominant society, we hear a lot of advice on how to achieve success. But what is success really? To some it means having a lot of money, others it means being famous, yet some of us might say it’s living with health, meanings as individual as each and every one of us.
However, to achieve success the advice is to work hard, not give up, keep at it – never quit. Yet this is a rather rigid ideal. We need to also pause, step back, and look at the big picture and make sure that all this striving is still serving our personal definition of success. Is our own life purpose being cultivated or are we living and working around someone else’s ideas?
When we are living to someone else’s ideals our body will let us know – it will rebel in some way. We will feel it as anxiety, depression, headaches, digestive disorders, and a whole myriad of physical or mental maladies.
Becoming less rigid and allowing some time for exploration down other paths helps us to find out more about who we are. My successful life doesn’t have to look like your successful life. Alternatively what we each perceive and failing and quitting in others is possibly an entirely false rigid stance.
So while the storms of our life rage – even beyond our current storm, we must learn to adapt, be flexible, and look to the possibility of life beyond the storm because we are able to go with the flow and not fight it.